幸福美滿的婚姻, 成長茁壯的孩子 系列之三



Intro-Parenting is a Sacred Stewardship

前言- 為人父母是神聖的職責


 

Children are a GIFT from the Lord.

                     Psalm 127:3-5 

孩子是神賜下的禮物

                     詩篇 127:3-5

God has uniquely DESIGNED your child.

                      Psalm 139:13-16 

神對你的孩子有獨一無二的設計

                      詩篇 139:13-16

 

Parenting Styles Make a Huge Difference*

父母教養方式帶來巨大差異

 

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4 Principles for Effective Parenting

有效能父母的四個原則


1.Effective parenting begins with positive

有效能的父母始於正向肯定

 

Clear - Cut Objectives

明確的目標

 

Fathers, don’t overcorrect your children or make it difficult

for them to obey the commandment. Bring them up with

Christian teaching in Christian discipline

Ephesians 6:4

你們作父親的,不要惹兒女的氣,只要照著主的教訓和警戒養育他們。以弗所書 6:4

 

·The Principle of Focus

關注的原則

·God’s Dream vs. The Human Dream for your Child

神對你孩子的夢想 對比 人對自己孩子的夢想

 

2. Effective parenting demands we PRACTICE what we PREACH.

有效能的父母必須言行一致

 

I am writing this not to shame you but to warn you as my

dear children. Even if you had ten thousand guardians in

Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus

I became your father through the gospel. Therefore I urge you to imitate me.

1 Corinthians 4:14-16

14.我寫這話,不是叫你們羞愧,乃是警戒你們,好像我所親愛的兒女一樣。

15.你們學基督的,師傅雖有一萬,為父的卻是不多,因我在基督耶穌裡用福音生了你們。

16.所以,我求你們效法我。

哥林多前書 4章 14-16 節

 

·The Principle of Modeling

塑造的原則

·“More is Caught Than Taught”

身教重於言教

 

3. Effective Parents build relationships that bond.

有效能的父母建立緊密的關係

 

but we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children.We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us. 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8

7.只在你們中間存心溫柔,如同母親乳養自己的孩子。

8.我們既是這樣愛你們,不但願意將神的福音給你們,連自己的性命也願意給你們,因你們是我們所疼愛的。

帖撒羅尼迦前書 2:7-8

 

For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who call you into his kingdom and glory. 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12

11.你們也曉得我們怎樣勸勉你們,安慰你們,囑咐你們各人,好像父親待自己的兒女一樣,

12.要叫你們行事對得起那召你們進他國、得他榮耀的神。

帖撒羅尼迦前書 2:11-12

 

·The Principle of Relationship

關係的原則

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8 “Keys” that Build Relationships that Bond

8個能建立緊密關係的關鍵

1. Unconditional Love 無條件的愛      2. Consistent Communication 一致的溝通

3. Scheduled Time 預定計劃的時間     4. Meaningful Touching 有意義的

5. Focused Attention 全神關注           6. Fun Together 一起

7. Eye Contact  眼神交流                   8. Pray Together Often 時常一起禱告

 

4. Effective parenting requires constant REPAIR and ongoing MAINTENANCE.

有效能的父母需要常常修復和不斷地保養

 

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

我們若認自己的罪、 神是信實的、是公義的、必要赦免我們的罪、洗淨我們一切的不義。

約翰一書 1:9

 

·The Principle of Process  

過程的原則

·5 Magic Words = I’m Sorry! and Please Forgive Me!  

五個神奇的字 = 抱 歉 ! 和 原 諒 我 !

·It's never too late.

永遠不會太遲 

 


Application/Discussion Questions 應用/討論題目


On a scale of 1 to 10, how effective a parent are you?

從 1到10, 你評估自己的父母效能為多少?

2. Discuss which point was most helpful to you. Why?

哪一點對你的幫助最大? 為什麼?

3. Where do you need to focus some parenting energy?

你需要在哪裡專注你教養兒女的能量?

What specifically will the next step look like?

你下一步具體的作法會是什麼?

4. What class or small group series will you join to develop and grow your parenting skills?

為了幫助你增長為人父母教養兒女的技巧, 你會參加什麼課程或小組討論系列?

 

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