2016.01.17　幸福美滿的婚姻，成長茁壯的孩子　系列之二 @ Venture Church 中文翻譯

How to Make Your Marriage the Exception

如何避免婚姻觸礁

Marriages that Work, Children that Thrive, Part 2

幸福美滿的婚姻，成長茁壯的孩子　系列之二

January 16-17, 2016 Chip Ingram

2016年1月16-17日

Introduction

Your Marriage Can Change For The Better If You...Seize The Day

前言

你的婚姻可以變得更好，如果你...把握這一日

Review:The Picture, The Problem, The Process

回顧：圖表，問題，過程

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The Four C's That Make A Great Marriage

創造美好婚姻的四個Ｃ

1. Commitment - " A lifelong Choice of unconditional love."

一、做出承諾 - ＂選擇終身付出無條件的愛。＂

Our Model = Hebrews 13:5-6

我們的典範　＝　希伯來書　13:5-6

Commitment says, " I Love You."

承諾意味著：＂我愛你＂

2. Communication - " A lifelong skill of learning to understand each other."

二、溝通 - ＂終身學習了解彼此的技巧。＂

Our model = Ephesians 4:15

我們的典範　＝　以弗所書　4:15

Communication says, " I trust you."

溝通訴說著：＂我信任你＂

3. Caring - "An adventure of lifelong friendship, fun, and mutual fulfillment."

三、關心 - ＂一場終身的友誼、樂趣、和滿足彼此的冒險。＂

Our model = Matthew 11:28-30

我們的典範　＝　馬太福音　11:28-30

Caring says, " I like you. "

關心訴說著：＂我喜歡你＂

4. Commision - "A shared vision to impact the lives of others for Christ."

四、付出 - ＂為耶穌去影響他人生命的共同願景。＂

Our model = Matthew 28:18-20

我們的典範　＝　馬太福音　28:18-20

Commission says, " I need you."

付出訴說著：我需要你

Important Reminder!!!

重要提醒！！！

Personal Time + Supportive Friends + Renewing Activities =

A "Fully Alive" You -> Full Battery -> To Be A Giver

個人的時間　＋　支持的朋友　＋　更新的活動　＝　

一個＂完整有活力＂的你　->　充飽的電池　-> 成為一位付出者

Developing A personal Gameplan For Intimacy

發展個人親密關係的戰略

1. Tell your partner what kind of words and actions let you know that he/she is committed to you [i.e. pray together, set goals, lead financially, express affection, etc.]. How will each of you seek to demonstrate your commitment to one another this week? On a weekly basis?

一、告訴你的伴侶哪一種話或行動讓你覺得他對你做出承諾（比如：一起禱告，設立目標，擔起財務責任，表達情感，等等）。在這一周當中，你們如何個別尋求去展現對彼此的承諾？在每一周當中？

2. When and what will you put into your daily/weekly schedule to facilitate ongoing communication in your marriage? Set actual times and days to have a "conference."

二、在你每日/每周的行程表中，你要在何時、以及用何種方式協助婚姻中持續的溝通？設定一個舉行＂會議＂確切的時間和日期。

3. Plan a weekly activity to have fun and develop the friendship side of your marriage. Identify the activity, and jot down at least two specific things to do together. Choose one and take turns planning the activity.

三、計畫一個有樂趣並能發展婚姻中的友誼的每周進行的活動。確認活動，並寫下至少兩個一起進行的特定事項。選擇一項並輪流規畫活動。

4. Idnetify three to four possible ways you and your mate [and even family] could demonstrate care and concern for others in the name of Christ. Set a time and discuss how to put your service ideas into action.

四、確認三到四個你和你的配偶（甚至家人）可以在基督裡展現關心與在乎他人的可能方式。設定一個時間來討論如何將你服務的想法轉化為行動。

5. Who or what provides support and refreshment for your personally? Talk about specific ways to arrange your home life so each partner has time and same-sex friendships that refresh, support, and replenish.

五、什麼人或事提供對你個人的支持和更新？談談關於安排你的家庭生活的特定方式，讓每一位成員都能有更新、支援、和充電的時間以及同性友誼。